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It’s Hospice Time, Sorry to say………..

Just got back from the doctors office where I got 2 ltr of “juice” because I was so dehydrated.   I have to go back Friday for two units of blood to try and raise my energy level.  I am not sure what I am supposed to do with all of this extra energy but I guess doing a couple of loads of wash would be OK with Sue.

The bad news has oficially arrived.   We are no longer going to do anything to fight the cancer.  We are going to “sign up” for Hospice care Friday.  At this point the care will be provided in our house with the option of moving to the hospital.

There are a lot of you that I would like to see but I am not going to be able to because of the dificulty of getting around.  Any, and all of you are welcome to come here.  Yes, Sue has approved that statement.

Things really haved moved a lot faster than what was anticipated.  My posts and comments will be slowing down I am sure.  I still have a good attitude but my  sense of humor is suffering.  Hang in there with me.  We know what is coming soon, but we can still have a little fun.

Love you all,


16 Responses to “It’s Hospice Time, Sorry to say………..”

  1. kevin jordan Says:

    Bob, We’re hanging with you my friend. What ever happens, you are always near and dear.
    Your Pal
    Don’t put colors with whites.

  2. Vicki Shawger Says:

    You constantly amaze me (of course, you always have with your antics). The grace, dignity, humor and strength that you’ve shown . . . I don’t know many people that could do the same. Take comfort in all the love and prayers coming your way.

    By the way - appreciate your plan to hug the old man for us. I’m sure he’ll have a beer and a smoke waiting for you.

    Take care, be strong and continue to amaze us all, Vicki

  3. Mary Beth Says:

    You are a trooper and have taken the past several months with great dignity and no bitterness. As we both know……there are a lot of questions we want to ask….but that is up to you and Hank. I asked Hank if he would let me know if heaven was all it was promised…..would he somehow let me know….his answer was “If I have time”……he has a lot of people to catch up with and I havent heard from him yet… he must be enjoying himself immensely.

    I would love to come and visit and I dont care if you are resting….I will rest with you…..and visit with Sue, Kelly and Ryan. I will call tomorrow to find out when the time would be good for you.

    You are in my prayers for peace in your mind and your heart……I know you told me at Hanks day…..that you were trying to get around it…..ask him for help……I bet he answers you…….he was always a strong man of prayer…..Love you and I will see you very soon Love Mary Beth

  4. GEORGE GANT Says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and Sue.
    You are one strong guy. I have to think of the Sinatra song. “I did it my way.” Some how what you are going through and doing, brings that to my mind.
    Hang in there!

  5. Regina Stiehr Says:

    Your strength, bravery and positive attitude continue to amaze me. Reading these comments from your family and friends often bring a smile to my face or a tear to my eye. I agree with one of Sue’s earlier entries about how this was like being on a roller coaster…I just hope the ride gets smoother for you.
    Take Care

  6. Mary Anne Fletcher Says:

    Dear Bob,
    Thank you for giving us all the gift of yourself these last few months. Sometimes we can’t say exactly what we feel so this allows us to share all of those thoughts with you and each other. Like Hank, I believe that our next passage will take us all to a better place. And I ask him every day to put in a good word for all of us.
    Brent and I will see you soon.
    Love to Sue, Kelly and Ryan,
    Mary Anne

  7. Bonnie Luttbeg Says:

    I can imagine you & Hank having a few chuckles over whatever the rest of us are doing down here, or trying to outdo each other with jokes. You better be prepared as Hank has a stockpile of funny stories. Love and prayers to all of you, including your mother, your not suppose to lose a child of any age (and with your antics we’re not sure what that age is).

  8. Ellen Painter Says:

    Dear Bob,
    Inspiration is not a word connected to many people, but you are that for all of us.

    I am having a bit of trouble connecting that to the bright orange corduroy short shorts you wore to my house so many years ago, but I guess inspiration can take many forms.

    Love to you,


  9. Terri Aprati Says:

    Dear Bob,

    It was so great being able to talk to you and Sue after all of this time. I am really grateful for the opportunity.

    Of course you know they say you can tell a lot about a person’s character by how they react in tragic circumstances. Your character and courage have been outstanding and truly amazing. You, too, Sue.

    We are all dying; most of us just don’t know how or when. I’d say you have the “how” part down.

    As one who doesn’t want to leave my funeral to chance, I have communicated my wishes to everyone who will listen, hoping to ensure my own memorial.

    I want to be cremated, and after a month or so (so anyone who wishes to come to California to say good-bye can get cheaper tickets), I want my family to lease a huge yacht and have a lot of expensive, REAL champagne, not the 4 buck stuff I usually drink. I want Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin music playing as the yacht goes out three miles off the coast of Newport Beach. I believe 3 miles is the law for releasing ashes.

    When my family is ready to let my ashes go, I want Bobby Darren’s song “Le Mer” (”Somewhere beyond the sea…) to play while everyone toasts my memory with a glass of champagne. Hopefully, someone will be smart enough to tell the direction of the wind!! That could be messy, but hey, not my problem!

    After that, I want everyone to continue drinking back to shore and then go out for a nice dinner to celebrate (not mourn) my life.

    Andrew is still a little wary of it, but hopefully, he’ll come around.

    I hope you can feel the prayers coming from California and the wishes for peace.



  10. Rebecca Ross Says:

    I love you Uncle Bobby and always have. I have a fond memory of you taking me to a carnival when I was 6 or 7. I am not sure why I remember it so much, except that is a place my mother would hate to go to. Ha Ha My prayers are with you, Sue and everyone else. Love,
    Little Becky Jeanne

  11. Bob Cradit Says:

    Bob you truly have done it your way I think that is what we all would like for ourselves. You and your family are truly inspirational.I want to thank you all for the example. please know that as always you guys are in our prayers,
    there’s a plaque at the base of a tree planted for dad that says “the onerist angel in heaven” regretfuuly we must change that to one of….
    take care Bob

  12. Mary Anne Fletcher Says:

    I want to go to Terri Aprati’s funeral! I don’t know her but that sounds like my kind of party!
    See if you can hook us up!

  13. JEANNE Says:

    Little Brother,

    It is tough for me to say things to you for all to read. But, I want to confirm what so many have already said. You are loved!

    There are people who will live to be a hundred who will not make as many people laugh and smile as you have already. You have so many friends and all with memories of how they have enjoyed you.

    Just so you can rest easy, I have forgiven you for hitting me in the head with the toy hoe.



  14. Terry T. Says:

    My prayers are with you and your family, thank you for including me in your blogs, I’m sorry we didn’t get back in touch sooner. It’s been a roller coaster for you and your family and you have all handled it with such grace and love. God bless all of you.
    You are loved by many.

  15. Sheila Thomas James Says:

    Well… you are quite an impressive man…you have taught your family how to handle difficult times with grace and a sense of humor.

    There are many of us out there praying for you…

    Sheila James

    (Greg’s little sister)

  16. mom Says:

    to my # 1 son:

    I think I have finally become a computer nerd….I had to so I could tell you how much I love you and wish I could be with you more often but I
    would probably be a basket case. You have always been my rock.
    You surely do have lots of friends. I am so happy for you. Hope to see you Sat. or Sun.

    Much love and prayers.


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