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shuffle up and deal. .

The time has come. Bob lost his fight today. He was with family and friends when he decided to call it a day. Kelly, Ryan, Will, his Mom, my brother Paul, Annette, Gerri and Fr. Tom were here with Bob and I. I would like to think he is looking down on us right now with a cigarette, beer and a deck of cards asking when the tournament begins.

It was so quick that I’m still not sure its real but when I wake in the morning and he’s not there I guess that’s when the reality will set in. Fr. Tom wanted to know about Bob so Ryan printed off all the wonderful comments on his blog. I truly think that his friends and relatives told the story so well. Thank you all so much.

He will be so missed. There is a song in the musical Wicked that says” because I knew you, I have been changed for good. You have left a hand print on my heart” that’s what I feel about Bob right now. Some how, in some way he has changed all of us.

Tomorrow Kelly and I start the process of saying good bye and we will let you know the details of the arrangements.

Love to you all,


7 Responses to “shuffle up and deal. .”

  1. Vicki Shawger Says:

    Find comfort and peace in your memories. The love you shared will love on forever, as will the smiles, laughter and joy that he brought to all.

  2. Karen Parsons (Spillman) Says:

    Sue, Kelly and family…………he’s winning this tournament, I’m sure! And he shared his winnings with all of us. What an incredible journey you’ve shared with your friends. I cannot explain what this blog has meant to me and I’m sure to all who care about you that have participated. My heart is with you. Love, Karen

  3. GEORGE GANT Says:

    DEAR Sue,
    This is Saturday, I got home from work and I saw Jane’s e-mail about Bob. My heart goes out to you. I know you lost your best friend. He was one of a kind to me. When you play poker and set across the table from a guy like Bob, you learn to see so much. he was gentle, would go for the throat, be kind and then go for the throat. He was the best.

    I just spoke to Caroline in Dallas and she heard this morning from her brother about Bob. We both are praying for your peace.

    As I get older life becomes complex, I seem to take for granted the things I have. I hate the things I cannot have anymore. I’ll hate not seeing Bob.
    He was and is special.

  4. Georgia Elberson Says:

    Sue, our thanks to you and your family for sharing on the blog. It meant a lot to us to have been included in this journey. We only wish the story would have had a better ending. Bob was a wonderful person and will be missed and we were proud to have had him as a friend. All our love and wishes to you, Kelly and the rest of his family.

    Georgia & Bill

  5. Debbie and Ralph Says:

    Dear Sue,

    Our prayers are with today and everyday. Even though we didn’t write much as Ralph didn’t know what to say, our thoughts were with you both. We will always think of Bob as floating in the pool on his blue float “working” or waiting for that next golf game, which I am sure he is playing right now.

    I’m glad you got to enjoy some of his retirement with him these last few years. He was so special…. I remember the stories of the laundry and his bleaching everything.

    Love from Flower Mound
    Deb and Ralph

  6. Bob (Squared) Smithson Says:


    I’ve been thinking about you two all last night and this morning and now I know why. He must have tapped everyone on the shoulder on his way out of town to let everyone know that he was movin’ on.

    He will indeed be missed…even for the short amount of time that I knew Bob, I know that I’ll be hard pressed to find anyone else like him.

    My best wishes and prayers to you and your family in what must be (in my experience) a very strange, confusing, and emotional time.

    With love,

  7. Ellen Says:

    Dear Sue, Kelly, and all Bob’s family and friends,

    I just wantd to post two verses from the song that Sue referenced from the musical “Wicked”. It does seem fitting, because Bob’s life obviously touched so many people’s hearts and clearly for good. I am so sorry I didn’t get to meet him, but I am grateful to have shared in his last few months through this blog and I have loved all the stories each of you have shared about his life. Bob must have felt incredible fortunate to have so many special people by his side, through his life and till the end. I hope you continue to turn to each other to help fill the void that must surely be felt by Bob’s passing.

    My heart goes out to you,


    “I’ve heard it said
    That people come into our lives for a reason
    Bringing something we must learn
    And we are led
    To those who help us most to grow
    If we let them
    And we help them in return
    Well, I don’t know if I believe that’s true
    But I know I’m who I am today
    Because I knew you:

    Like a comet pulled from orbit
    As it passes a sun
    Like a stream that meets a boulder
    Halfway through the wood
    Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
    But because I knew you
    I have been changed for good”

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